I just finished a Facebook Live video about dreaming. You can watch it here. Thought I would write a little blog to go with it. One of the first thing I recommend to people that want growth in their lives is that they start dreaming. Why? Because dreaming will help you to know yourself better. Growth requires that you at least begin to understand yourself.
I recommend that you first allow yourself to dream. It doesn't matter if it's a ridiculous dream. It doesn't matter if you have been disappointed a hundred times before. Start dreaming again! When you find a dream that has been tucked away, or if it's right at the forefront of your mind, bring it into your conscious thoughts. Now ask yourself what the "why?" is behind the dream. It's always deeper than you think. Even if it's ego that is still deeper than "I just want it".
Once you have recognized what the deeper longing is you have some clarity. Now you can start the work.
First things first. Start by creating the reality now. If you are dreaming of freedom, adventure, luxury, relaxation, feeling attractive, whatever, you name it, there is a way to create that now. You do not need any money to create a feeling. You simply need to create an atmosphere and choose the thoughts you think.
For example, freedom can be found in a meditation of detachment as much as it can be found on a Vespa (my personal icon of freedom, lol). Adventure can be found by going on a hike somewhere within an hour of you and packing a picnic lunch. Luxury can be found in a bubble bath with essential oils and music. Relaxation can be leaving your phone in a drawer with the ringer off, a great fiction book, a blanket and pillow, in a two hour(or less) time frame. Feeling attractive can be found by getting dressed up and maybe, if you are into it, putting on makeup and looking in the mirror through the whole process and telling yourself how attractive you are. All about thought creation!
Are you seeing this? Until you prove to yourself that you have the ability to create what you are dreaming of you will never put in the work for the things you think you are dreaming of. It's never just about the trip, or the house, or even the appearance. Go deeper. It's always about wanting to feel something.
Sometimes we save up and spend the money on making a dream reality without doing this work. Awesome. Maybe you save the money to go to Europe because you (likely subconsciously) think it will create the feeling of romance or adventure or freedom. The truth is Europe will have NOTHING to do with you feeling what you feel. Your thoughts will. Yes going to Italy was one of the most romantic things my husband and I have ever done but if I'm totally honest with myself the magic of that trip was because we were fully engaged. Totally in tune and paying attention. All of our senses were alert. A location doesn't create that. Thoughts do. Italy was the placebo.
Start creating your dreams right where you are. Do the work. Nothing worth having will come easy. There is always a first step. Do the first step.