Your house matters.
Fill it with love!
Yesterday I posted before and after pics of my house on Facebook. I received wonderful feedback and it felt so good. We all like that little hit of approval sometimes, am I right?
I love houses and decorating. I believe that the space you spend most of your time should be a true reflection of you.
I wanted to give you a few pointers for making your space special if you desire to do the same.
1. Think about what you want to feel when you are in the space. This can, and likely will, be different for every room. For example, I want to feel super cozy and connected in my living room. In my kitchen, I want to feel healthy and excited about cooking. In my meditation/yoga space, I want all the chill and spiritual energy. In my bedroom, I want to feel a sense of ease and a whole lot of sexy.
Once you determine this, hop on Pinterest, taking one room at a time and pin rooms that have the vibe you like. Remember that you are looking for a vibe, not something to create an exact replica of. Trust your own ability to create a space you love. This is so unique to each person. Let yourself have your own particular flavor. Go wild or go subtle but NEVER go with what you think you "should" do. ALWAYS push yourself to embrace your own essence.
2. Create tiny vignettes that remind you of your truth. The FACT that you are totally loved just as you are. Also, things that you value the most. What are those things to you? Currently, mine are family, connection, love, and adventure. My home is filled with things that remind me of my values.
3. Get rid of the crap you don't either need or love. This takes a minute but is so worth it. If you have not read The Life-Changing Habit of Tidying Up, do yourself a favor and check it out. Then do the stuff it teaches. I did this 4 years ago and it was a game-changer. I am not nearly as minimal as she is but I have to love the things I am surrounded by.
4. Think about what your space would look like if you gave yourself exactly what you wanted. I realized when I did this that it was the simple things. Not the fancy, expensive things. I bought an extra set of sheets for the first time in my life. I keep coffee cups that make me smile every time I see them. I have words all over the place. Any designer would say I overdid that one but words give me life.
5. Take pleasure in the simple things. Creating a beautiful vignette. Cooking a simple soup. Washing dishes by hand. Steaming the edges of your pillowcase every once in a while. Having candles by the tub and actually lighting them. Burning incense right before going to bed and turning on a little jazz.
There was a time in my life that I started to think these things were silly and shallow. That the important things were working hard, reading lots of books, filling my mind with information, hustling and reaching goals.
All those things are fine but what I have come to step more deeply into is that the most beautiful parts of life are the simple ones. The ones that fill my body and mind with pleasure. Deeply breathing in meditation. Smelling delicious food as I cook a meal. Dancing between stirs. Listening to my 16-year-old tell me about his day and make fun of my eccentricity. Taking a ridiculously long bubble bath with my husband as we talk about the details of the day, something we've done almost every night for 25 years. That's the magic. Simple pleasure. Being present with it all.
Less force, more flow.
I have found myself at a place where I am truly, madly in love with my life. Sometimes I have to coach myself around fearing that it's too good to be true. I know that we are in a season where circumstances are (mostly) good and that there will be times through my life that they may not be. I choose to focus on and celebrate the good in a passionate way, instead of allowing the fear of "what if?" to grip me. I believe that by living a life of celebration and love, when hard times do come I will have a deep well to draw from.
This reality is a byproduct of deep self-realization and love. I wish I could tell you to redecorate a room or two and you will have those two things but the reality is that there is internal work that must be done. You can love your house yet hate your home.
I believe home is where my body is. Nothing I do externally will ever give me an internal reality. For internal transformation, we must do internal work. Transforming from the inside out.
It may sound overwhelming. Maybe you don't want to open "Pandora's Box", but I promise you, it won't be as scary as you think and the changes will be more than worth it.
I would love to see pictures of how you create spaces that you love. Tag me in your social media posts. You can absolutely share them in my private FB group, Soulful, Sacred, and Sexy Sisterhood.