Roll your eyes if you must then sit down and write affirmations and read them out loud to yourself. In case you don't get the rolling eyes thing, Stuart Smalley made affirmations infamous on Saturday Night Live when he said: "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me." As my 15-year-old says "that's cringe- worthy mom". Well, friends, cringe, make fun, roll your eyes, do whatever you need to but the fact is affirmations WORK!!!!
I once thought that self-love was simply changing your thoughts to more affirming ones was key. I now realize that there is much more to it but affirmations were part of the path. Doing them has been a huge part of the transformation for me.
.Practicing affirmations can look different for every person and I think it is wise to write affirmations for each area of our lives. For the purposes of this book, I will focus on affirmations for weight loss and increasing self-love.
To write affirmations it is great to recognize the negative self-talk you have been engaging. Maybe things like "I hate my body", "my stomach is fat and has stretch marks", "these thighs are thunderous", "getting old sucks, these wrinkles are horrible". Any of those sound familiar? We all do this on some level and about something on our body. Rarely does a person only see the positive things about their physical appearance without doing a lot of work. The amazing this is that we get to CHOOSE what we think of ourselves. Why do we choose negative things? To do affirmations about your appearance first bring recognition to the negative then choose a different thought intentionally. Make sure it is something you can eventually believe. You may not be able to believe "my thighs are beautiful" but you can believe "my thighs are strong". Your affirmation does not have to be about aesthetics they simply need to be positive or at the least neutral. Maybe you move from "I hate my body" to "I have a body". When you refuse to continue the negative narrative you will begin to believe a more loving truth and in turn, begin to love yourself and your body.
You DO NOT have to get to a goal to develop true deep self-love. The love will lead you to your healthiest, most whole, self. Love is the journey and the destination. Remember?
Practical Tip: Pay attention to the things you say to yourself when you look in the mirror. Ask yourself if you would say
that to a friend or a daughter. Change the thought to something loving. You can record yourself reading your affirmations and listen each day. You can write affirmations on Post-It notesand place them on your mirror. You will feel a shift towards love in a short amount of time but don't stop.
Side note: I have heard people voice that by changing this they are afraid of being overconfident and prideful. That other people will view them as arrogant. My thought on that is this....the difference between confidence and arrogance is that the arrogant person sees themselves as amazing and others are not. The confident person sees themselves as amazing and everyone else also. If you are viewed as arrogant by a person casting judgment that is not your problem, it is theirs. Not showing up as confident and whole in this life because of what others think is the result of fear. Perfect love casts out fear!